We are ALL fixer uppers

As we stew over those extra holiday pounds and think of possible New Year’s resolutions, let me state the obvious. From one imperfect person to another, we are ALL fixer uppers. So, we could benefit from a few touch ups. All of us.

To remind us of how imperfect we are, here are few truisms to think about.

– Everyone thinks they are better than average, but in actuality that is not possible.

– The customer is not always right, but they are the customer. Yet, being the customer does not give you license to be a jerk.

– It takes at least two people to have a communication problem. It may not be 50/50, but both sides are almost always at fault to some extent.

– Opinions are like rectums. Everyone has one. (I cleaned this one up). It does not make them or you right.

– Saying it is my fault is not a crime. It is actually welcome to fess up. Others, with some degree of fault, might even admit theirs.

– Saying thank you is important, as we need to recognize people do not have to help you.

– One of the greatest gifts is the gift of time. Be generous with yours and try not to waste another person’s time.

– Finally, please remember the most intolerant of people require the most tolerance from others in dealing with them. Sometimes it is better to just reduce or eliminate exposure to such toxic people.

I hope everyone is having an enjoyable holiday season. Let’s set some reasonable and sustainable resolutions for 2019. We could ALL use some fixing up.

 

 

14 thoughts on “We are ALL fixer uppers

  1. This one may be the hardest for most people these days to embrace: – “Saying it is my fault is not a crime. It is actually welcome to fess up. Others, with some degree of fault, might even admit theirs.”

    • Hugh, you are so right. While it is worse today, it has always been in an issue. I remember working in a traditional company over twenty years ago where I admitted something was my fault. An acquaintance said “you’re going to admit that?” I told him yes, it was my fault. But, I am going to fix the problem. His question still surprises me today.

    • Dear Keith and Hugh,

      Saying It’s my fault or I made a mistake are not signs of weakness but signs of strength where one has the power to admit that they are only human. Over time, I’ve arrived at the view that HRC lost the 2016 elections in part, because it took her forever to admit she made a mistake.

      Hugs, Gronda

  2. Note to Readers: True story about a CEO who made a $10 million investment mistake shortly after taking over for the company founder who remained Chairman of the Board. The CEO met with the Chairman and owned up to the mistake saying he thought it was the right move. The Chairman said I hired you to take chances. Learn from this and try not to let it happen again.

  3. Note to Readers: On the last point, I used to have the youngest curmudgeon I have ever come across work for me. He was intolerant of everyone. Including him yet one more time in a small party at my house, I overheard him telling a colleague “I don’t want to go to his stupid party.” I simply said to him, “Then, don’t come” and walked away. I try to be as gracious as I can, but sometimes a direct statement is required. He did not attend and we had a good time.

  4. Note to Readers: One of the reasons for performance grade creep upward is employees have an aversion for “meets expectations.” Hence, managers tend to overgrade. It also makes it even more difficult to grade someone with “partially meets expectations.”

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