Opinion hosts, politicians and people in general get in a habit of sharing phrases, labels or names meant to be shortcuts to get people to believe the speaker or writer’s point and dismiss another person’s. Far more often than not, these terms are denigrating in nature and are a form of lazy argument.
The name callers and labelers are actually hoping no one will ask them what this label means in this context. Because, they do not really know the answer. As an easy example, have you ever used a common acronym like NASA, HMO, PPO, ERISA, NATO, etc. and then someone asks you what the acronym stands for? And, you don’t know the answer. The same holds true when people use terms meant to be derogatory short cuts.
So, how do we remedy this? Listen and read, first. Converse in person or in writing. Then ask questions. What does that mean? Do you really believe that this is akin to (evil word)? And, listen to the answer. Then follow-up with another question, but do it in a manner to understand.
If you listen to people first, it gives you more license to follow-up. Yet, I would encourage people to do so in a manner that you want in return. In other words, treat others like you want to be treated.
I often use as an example Daryl Davis, an African-American man who has successfully talked over 200 KKK members into quitting and giving him their robes. He says he starts with conversation, often because he is a musician, and then asks them questions that make them think. Think about that. A Black man convincing a White supremacist to change his or her mind by talking with him or her.
If Davis can have those kinds of conversations, so can we. After listening to someone, I have been able to ask something like “Do you really believe that or are you just saying that cause it sounds good?” “Do you really believe asking someone to (insert issue) is akin to Nazism, Apartheid, Slavery, or Genocide?”
I don’t know about you, but those four things are heinous things that happened in our global history, so if something is going to be legitimately compared to them, it better be a heinous action. A mask mandate to protect people is not Nazism. Nazism led to the murder of over 6 million Jews, while a mask mandate is trying to protect the world from COVID deaths that now total 6 million. The contradiction is staggering.
Converse. Listen. Ask. Follow-up. Be nice. Treat others like you want to be treated. To be frank, if I had an opinion that was inane because I believed a source who disinformed or misinformed me with intent, I would want that inane opinion to be questioned. Diplomatic push back. Civil discourse. Those are the keys.
I am always careful about using such terms – unless I am quite sure. I question others who throw around such terms or foreign words rather than being impressed.
Erika, you are a wise and judicious person. Keith
I think, I just know my limits and don’t want to look as stupid as those who don’t 😄
Erika, knowing your limits. It is an awareness we all could be better at. Sometimes it is better we just keep our thoughts to ourselves. Keith
It takes great personal control, doesn’t it? I try to put compassion first, but unless I am able to step out of my personal feelings, I struggle to maintain calm.
VJ, it is hard, I agree. The easiest thing to do is not to temper your response, but if you want to be heard, you must. Keith
I am the same, VJ … I try and sometimes succeed, but sometimes I simply cannot be calm and reasoned.
Fab post! You remind me of my husband!
Thanks Resa. Well if you let him hang around, that is a nice compliment.
He’s been hangin’ around for a long time!
I bet you two have this yin and yang thing down pat.
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I am trying this on FaceBook at the moment.
There is this annoying little trope where someone dissatisfied with the state of our government and nation(s), complains there is no freedom or democracy in the UK.
Truly, they believe that? When to state such a view in a distressing number of countries will have you gaining very unwelcome and physical attention from someone. Sadly in the USA it takes courage for some republican politicians to make unpopular views known.
I know there is this urge to try and appear ‘savvy’ and fashionably ‘world weary’ but a brief trip around the various political set-ups in the world will prove how self-indulgent these UK citizens are.
Now if I could only rein in on my acerbic tone in the responses.
Roger, as I shared on Jill’s post about Rick Scott, some Republicans can complain all they want about a global economy, but they cannot change the fact everything is connected. Foreign companies employ millions of Americans here as they make products for sale in North America. And, American companies do the same in other countries. The same is true in the UK, although Brexit has been dilutive to this effort there. Even Trump failed to grasp this concept and his bumper sticker positions had to be tempered.
Indeed, we are in a very interconnected world Keith.
Whatever happens has ripples and consequences on our doorsteps, maybe not today or even a few days down the line, but sometime it will come knocking on the door.
The voice of reason as always, my friend! I try … I shall try harder, for often my temper seems to have the upper hand.
Jill, many thanks. As I mentioned to Roger, you sell yourself short. Take care, Keith